Ep. 86: Raising the Queer, Black, and Free

Alicia Lucas and her husband have five children. They used to say they have four daughters and one son, but they’re learning to practice a different narrative. Today, Alicia and her husband tell people they have three daughters, one son, and a child named Roxanne. Roxanne is their 8-year-old, gender-fluid child whose personal pronoun is “They.” Roxanne’s brother is 12 and identifies as bisexual. Together, their family is learning how to use terms and make space for every one of them to be comfortable and confident in being exactly who they are. As they learn how to do this, they’re shifting from conventional homeschooling and over into a more self-directed life. Self-Directed Education is helping them to deschool from ideas of gender roles and norms, and Alicia wants us to remember how this particular shift is tied to the greater issues of freedom, particularly for black families like hers.